“The winds of grace are blowing all the time. All we need to do is raise our sails.”
Think of mindfulness as something like aligning the sails on a boat—tightening or loosening the ropes to most effectively harness the wind and direct your course. Mindfulness is an essential ingredient that determines the quality of your results whether your goals concern your career, finances, creative expression, relationships, life transitions, health, or personal development.
My Coaching Approach and Philosophy
What is Coaching?
Coaching is a collaborative process of exploration that strengthens the wisdom you already have within you, allowing you to skillfully establish goals, design strategies, initiate steps and achieve your goals. (Read more about coaching)
My Coaching Background and Training
I earned a Certificate in Life Coaching from New York University in 2007 and began coaching during the course of my training. Since 2008, I have engaged in serious study and practice of Buddhist principles, which inform and provide the foundation of my work. I also work as a coach with Choose Your Coach, a company based in New York City that delivers coaching services through human resource departments to employees in corporations.
What is Mindfulness and Why Does it Matter?
Mindfulness is something we hear a lot about these days. Since its meaning can often be misunderstood, I would like to clarify what it means, some of its distinctions, and why it is important. There are levels of mindfulness, beginning with meditations that calm the mind by focusing on a chosen object such as one’s flow of breath, noticing feelings and sensations as they arise without judgment and then gently returning the focus to the breath. This practice is an excellent way to help reduce stress and anxiety and other negative states of mind.
If you envision your mind as a calm body of water, when anxiety and stress are active in your mind it’s as if aggressive winds have churned the water into a stormy sea. It is in this way that your mind becomes agitated and disturbed by negative thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness meditation manages the negative thoughts and emotions at their source, allowing your mind to return to its calm and natural state. Over time, mindfulness practice can be directed toward a deeper awareness that includes introspection to understand the quality and true origin of thoughts that instigate agitated states of mind. Once you understand their true origins, it is then possible to apply antidotes, disabling the habitual thoughts that cause unhappiness, stress and anxiety, and to make conscious decisions that steer your life in the direction that most meaningfully honors the values you choose to live by.
Lojong, the mind training taught by Tibetan Buddhist lamas, entails directing awareness of the mind’s activity, refining, and purifying one’s motivations and attitudes. This practice informs my life and therefore imbues and serves to deepen the quality of my work. Assisting my clients as they cultivate mindfulness is central to the work we do together – without mindfulness, one’s focus is unclear.
You are the Expert in Your Own Life
You are the expert in your own life, and through the skillful use of powerful questions and active listening the coaching process serves to promote insights and give voice to your own expert knowledge. With mindfulness at the core of your motivations, choices and actions, you will design strategies to accomplish your goals and achieve a sense of peace, contentment, and a life lived in a meaningful way. It might sound like magic, but there’s no magic involved— it’s all within your power.
For More Information and How to Contact Me
If you would like to have the support of coaching to make mindful and positive changes in your life I would love to speak with you about how we can work together to creatively and joyfully accomplish your goals. Please send me an email at Janet@JanetEttele.com, or call me at 203-512-8864 and we will set up a time to talk.
To learn more about my understanding of mindfulness, please read my blog: The Creative Power of Mindfulness